For those who have even been carried to the realm of wedding bells, congratulations!
We women are just such emotional and light-hearted people; it is a lovely gesture to surprise us with flowers and yet we are touched to the core and the bottom of our hearts.
Of course, then again, there is also a different kind who prefers more practical things compared to all these minute momentary surprises.
Above all, I am sure, practical or not, we have somehow or another received our looked forward to little surprises and romantic rendezvous on the much celebrated festival of LOVE.
Back to reality, we are struggling to make our schedules meet in this huge crisis and also workload is draining us out of our energy. At the same time, we are also happy thinking of meeting that special someone even one day out of the five working days in a week.
Meeting physically may be exhausting during the busy period but for the sake of love, it will not be a chore to free some time out of the busy schedule to pick up the phone to call, just to hear your voice.
This is nothing controversial; or something that only a guy should do as it could work either way.
Since this is a female blog, let me explore this from a female perspective.
We are all busy, and let's say you have recently just started seeing this guy who is obviously interested in you.
Yeah, economy's all bad and job security is not that strong at the moment, we all have our share in the woes.
However, does it makes any sense when you haven't heard from him in a week?
Can a human being be this busy that it could slip his mind to even pick up the phone to hear your voice?Even God takes his break on the 7th day when HE created our world.
C'mon, if he's really that into you, he would be looking forward to catch that sweet voice of yours even if it's just for a while.
Should you pick up the phone and call him, you ask?
Well, we are definitely in a world where we are looking at the equality of both sexes; but reality is, there is a still a difference between both genders, otherwise God would have created us all to be transexuals or heterosexual....gross!
When you are in a relationship, a guy always is seen as the strong one and the one whose palm will cover the girl's, saying that 'I will protect you, you will be safe with me'
Not the other round where the girl inserts her hand into his palm to make herself safe.
Sounds feminist to you?
Even though I am a feminist, this is not what Greg said in his book and he is a guy himself.
He has done polls with other guys and 100% of the guys said they will always initiate the first move if they are into the girl and not the other way round.
A girl who makes her first move is not really someone of their first choice.
Any guy who is totally into you will never bear to make you waiting by the phone for the whole night and breaks his promise by not calling you when he said he would.
A guy who is also totally into you will never ditch you for his pals but will seek your understanding and work it out with you without disturbing the privacy of both of your own worlds with your friends.
A guy who is into you will not ever hide you from his friends or say that he's not ready for a relationship with you.
A guy who is into you, will want to see you every day, at any time he is able to slip out of his hectic schedule.
A guy who is into you, when travelling on a business trip, will pick up the phone to call and bear the exorbitant high prices of overseas call just to hear your voice when he can't see you.
A guy who is into you, will always want to hold your hand and bring you close to him so that you will always be protected by him and he likes you being close to him.
A guy who is into you, will never puts off his plans with you because he likes seeing you all the time.
A guy who is into you, will want to know all about you and he will find out by all means from everyone and everywhere possible and he does knows and remembers everything about you; even if he used to have the Dory-fish syndrome.
A guy who is into you, will never lie to you
A guy who is into you, will want to be with you ALL the time...no exceptions
A guy who is into you, will never have the qualms to tell you his feelings and how much he loves you.
A guy who is into you, will never make you cry or miserable by his actions
A guy who is into you, will never look away from your eyes.
A guy who is into you, is always there when you need him and calls you the first thing when something exciting happened to him; happy or sad. You're always the first on his mind.
A guy who is into you, will never never forget your birthday.
A guy who is into you, will always put you on his top priority.
A guy who is into you, will never ever deny his feelings for you in front of his/your friends when questioned. He will always have the sweet smile on his lips when your name is mentioned.
A guy who is into you, will always be proud to present you to the whole world...regardless of what people think as he only thinks of you.
A guy who is into you, will not cheat on you, period.
There were lots of questions answered by guys and of course, the ladies and these are not foolproof but they are definitely safe by the global gender standards which tells you whether your beau (guy or gal) is really into you.
It is always a safe sign and an universal sharing based on everyone's opinions although we have also been exposed to fighting for our own rights, letting the feelings grow, and search for your own happiness.
Yes, but it applies for both sides...as you and I know very well, love and happiness in a relationship can never be from a single party.
As a girl, we are always taught to have the feminism dignity in us and not to be trampled like some unwanted goods.
If you really like a guy and he shows no signs of being interested in you the same way you are, do you still want to make the first move and grab his attention?
What next?
If you think that feelings grow after a while, it's great that you are such an optimistic person and that you're proud of your confident posture and I am sure you've also been influenced by the saying that it's easier for a girl to pursue a guy than the other way round.
However, deep down inside, ask yourself this, will you ever believe that he is fully in love with you?
Will you not have doubts of his love for you when you were the first to approach him and you know his feelings for you is short of what you had for him?
Will you be assured that his feelings for you have truly grown along the way or will you always be haunted that he wasn't that into you in the beginning?
Worse of all, will you be bugged by the fact that it seemed like a fault that you were the first to initiate the move and not him, the gentleman when you compare notes with your girl friends?
It will always be a question mark which we can never answer and definitely one that we are not sure how to answer either.
We have brought up in the perspective world of dominating males in relationship and that guys should always make the first move. It is changing in trend in the contemporary world but then again, the questions which stem out will always be in our minds and I think most of us still find the whole notion of gal making the first move awkward and not fully acceptable; despite how modern we are.
Equality of the gender is fair and just but sometimes, we should look at the different aspects in equality.
If you were to dominate the guy in a relationship, where does the guy stand?
From a guy's standpoint, I am sure, if you're into the girl, you will not hesitate to ask her out anytime or make an effort to initiate her interest.
It is just as simple as ABC, if a guy's not interested in you, it's a waste of time and clearly, if he's not making the first move, is he really that into you?
And can you live with that for the rest of your life?
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