It is a common scene to catch a woman engaged in a heated and exciting conversation with another woman at any time of the day or in any corner/place you may be; or as we say, gossiping about other people.
Typically, we just nod it off while our guys would probably roll their eyes in our face and give us that, "Why are girls like that" kind of look.
Well, it is part and parcel of a girl's life; just like maternal instinct, these are like primitive natures in them where they just tend to love to share stuffs with each other.
I am not really into the gossiping part, seriously, there are girls who are not into gossiping about other people or celebrities where we just love to moon over their dirty lives.
When we are talking or whispering to each other, we are NOT always gossiping or sharing dirty bits about others' lives.
Puhhh..lease, we have other things better to do than that.
It has become such a general or rather, stereotyped perception that each time girls gather and huddle closely to each other, whispering into each other's ears, it means we are Gossiping.
Perhaps we are sharing some news or updates about each others' lives or something which concerns another friend which is to be discussed in private and not to be publicized.
Either way, it is still generally accepted that women gossip.
However, when men do it, it seemed like a whole new thing to us, I don't know why.
Perhaps we have been conformed to think that we are the superior gender who owns this privilege and priority that it is hard to imagine that our male counterparts are doing the same.
Just the other day, I was having dinner with my friend in a coffee shop and I did not mean to eavesdrop as this guy did not make an effort to keep his voice down anyway, but I couldn't help hearing how he was telling his friends about this b*tch at work.
I was surprised and totally taken aback by this kind of talk coming from a guy.
He was totally making a big story out of it all; and the way he described the woman and calling her names just made me feel so disgusted with his behavior.
I mean, no offense, but that is certainly not how a gentleman should behave in my own standards.
It was a loud and clear statement that this other woman whom he was working with had angered/annoyed him but there is still no reason to call others' names; man or woman.
Besides the fact, I was also surprised to find that men too, indulge in an activity which they frown upon when it's done by the fairer sex.
Then, it dawned upon me that MEN do gossip, and probably love it as much as the women do.
I still remember how some of my guy friends often shift closer to us girls when we start to lower our voices to share some tiny secrets.
They would also edge towards us to huddle together when they hear names mentioned; and want to know, Who's with who now, who broke up with who, and what, how, etc.
Well, that was pretty normal since that's probably part of the fun that they want to participate in.
However, THIS, is different though; where the guys are the ones doing the gossiping and with other guys.
I could barely imagine,I mean, what kind of topics would they talk about?
Alright, that whole b*tchin' thing about some other women at work/home who annoyed them but what else?
We've always thought that the topics which interest guys are (besides women and sex) football, cars, sports, finances, investments, properties, or all practical topics.
Perhaps we are wrong, but it just seems equally wrong to have guys discussing about how good Brad Pitt looks with Jennifer Aniston, etc.
Don't even dream of them sharing a hobnob on how romantic the scene is where the guy told the girl he loved her in a particular Korean drama.
It's just something which is unique; girls gossip about almost everything. There are so many topics which interest them; from make-up to beauty products, to clothes, accessories, family, work, friendships, celebrity news, dramas/movies, books, shopping...the list is almost to infinity.
It is just so easy to strike up a conversation with a girl which could probably go on until the cows come home.
If you are wondering how we girls can do that; chatting and hopping from one random topic to another/gossiping, well, it is again, back to the natural instinct in us and the enjoyment from the activity.
To us, it means spending quality time with our best girl friends and catching up with each other.
Where you catch up on sports and cars, we catch up with our girls on the latest happenings in our lives..and that of course, involves other people in our lives and their other people in others' lives.
You see, we girls are just highly networked that we can weave everyone's life together into one picture and sometimes, it is just so amazing.
For guys though, I am trying to picture the topics you discuss and dismissing the giggling part to maintain a macho image of the guys.
I am not trying to stereotype here; but just as guys always setting a certain standards for us girls, in the roles of childbearing, mothering, feminine, ladylike, soft-spoken, etc, we too have some unspoken standards for guys.
For instance, guys are expected to show courtesy by offering the seats to us, taking our heavy grocery bags, holding the doors open for us, etc.
Just as how guys do not like holding hands with each other or crying in front of us, it is also the same with gossiping.
It is considered a girl-thing, too, right?
I mean, there is nothing wrong when guys do want to share their juicy finds with other guys or b*tchin about others, but it is not honorable to be at the top of your voices in public places, ain't it?
Even we girls do not do that!
The whole concept about gossiping is about keeping it low, as we do respect others' privacy as well as the person we are talking about. Don't go washing all these dirty linens in the public, we say.
So, we have nothing against guys who would like to gossip, but for Pete's sake, before you indulge in our so-called 'sport', please learn the rules and be subtle about it.
Could you please keep it down a little?
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